Did you just find out your spouse is cheating?

Posted by on Apr 5, 2012 in Blog | Comments Off on Did you just find out your spouse is cheating? First, I’m so sorry. Second:  Here is what you need to do right now:   Nothing. Do not make any big decisions.  Do not throw her or his clothes on the lawn.  Do not call his work and tell his boss.  Do not call her friends and ask them for information.  Do not tell your children. If you must tell someone, talk to a very well-trusted person like a pastor or priest, an old, trusted and very wise...
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Divorce & A Blanket of Peace

Posted by on Sep 16, 2011 in Blog | 1 comment I have a particular conversation with almost every new divorce client. The same conversation, over and over. It’s tailored to the specific facts of my client’s case, of course, but the core is the same: After I listen carefully and with compassion to the things their spouse has done or is doing, and after they ask how to change the actions or feelings of their spouse, I say this: You can’t...
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Junk Food & Movie Night

Posted by on May 9, 2011 in Blog | Comments Off on Junk Food & Movie Night After my divorce, I knew I wanted to start or maintain some rituals that would benefit our son. I came up with Junk Food & Movie night. Every Friday night for quite a while, we’d get together and eat “junk food” (each person got to pick a candy or an ice cream) and watch a movie. The movie didn’t matter. The food didn’t matter. What mattered was that for a couple hours a week, our son sat...
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When you are feeling broken, please don’t break your child.

Posted by on Apr 19, 2011 in Blog | Comments Off on When you are feeling broken, please don’t break your child. Have you ever lost your cool on your kid? Yeah, me neither. Now that we’ve closed on the bridge I sold you, let’s get real. Today I read a great article by a single dad blogger. It moved me to tears. He talks about how we as parents have the power to make or break our children. Divorce is VERY hard and VERY painful. Please, please take great care of yourself during this time. Please ask family...
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First Wednesdays: Free Divorce Options Seminar

Posted by on Jan 28, 2011 in Blog | Comments Off on First Wednesdays: Free Divorce Options Seminar You don’t need to be an Einstein to have a civil, efficient, forward-thinking divorce; but you do need the right information! Know your options and make sure your lawyer or mediator is a good match for you. On Wednesday, March 2, 2011 (and monthly, on every “first Wednesday”), I’ll be discussing options for divorce and the 10 questions you should ask any mediator or lawyer before you hire them....
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After Divorce: 9 Tips to Help Your Kids Have a Great Christmas

Posted by on Dec 16, 2010 in Blog | 3 comments Which is the one day a year that everyone is supposed to get along and be happy? Most people would say “Christmas” (For consistency, I’ll say “Christmas,” but please replace that with “Solstice” or “Hanukah” or your holiday.) Christmas comes with an abundance of pressure already — add to that a divorce in process or a recent divorce and you have a recipe, not for gingerbread men, but...
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