Should You Keep The House?

Today, a post with some things to consider about the family home.  It’s still common in the part of the country in which I live, for more moms than dads to have primary physical care of the children after divorce.  Because they want to keep the children in the home they are used to, many moms decide to remain in the family home. Financial problems can arise down the road, however, because moms...
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The Day I Could Not Make It Down the Stairs or Why I’m So Wise (sometimes)

Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain. Robert Gary Lee The Day I Could Not Make it Down the Stairs One day, in the middle of my divorce, I started to walk down the stairs, from my bedroom to the first floor. It started out like any other trip down the stairs, with purpose and rhythm. Suddenly, at about step 6, a memory hit my heart, hit it hard, like an arrow in The Last of the Mohicans, and I...
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What Divorce Lawyers Do Wrong

Today, something a little different. Usually, I’m talking to people who are contemplating or in the midst of divorce or who have experienced divorce. Today, I’m talking to the divorce lawyers. I have some important things to say. What I’m saying is more than important, it’s critically important. You have a lot of power. Your clients come to you and look to you for leadership at one of the most...
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New West Des Moines Office Location as of October 1, 2012

Second Location: West Des Moines! I’m excited to announce that Graham Law Collaborative is now also located in West Des Moines! In addition to my Indianola office, you now have the option of meeting in West Des Moines at 5550 Wild Rose Lane #400  West Des Moines, IA 50266. I’m in the West Glen Town Center, just northwest of Super Target on Mills Civic Parkway. It’s very easy to find, just take...
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Beginning the Divorce Process: Finding the Right Lawyer or Mediator

The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. ~ John Pierpont Morgan Chances are, if you are reading this, you’ve decided that you aren’t staying where you are in regards to your marriage. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to either realize or decide to end your marriage. It’s not easy, whether you “want” the divorce or you were...
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Is divorce “bad?”

We like to label things. Either things are “good” or “bad.” Marriage? Good Divorce? Bad. Or . . . There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. He needed that horse to work his farm. One day his horse ran away. When his neighbors heard the news, they said sympathetically, “such bad luck.” “Maybe,” the farmer replied. The next morning the...
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